Monday, July 29, 2013

The Allure of Drama

Have any of you ever heard of Kimkins?  I never really did, to be honest.  I've known about low carb dieting for a long time, but I never even gave it a chance until last spring.  Until then, I was completely unaware of any of the goings-on in the LC world.  So somehow, by chance, I found myself reading about Kimkins for the very first time this weekend.  I stayed up way later than I should have last night reading about it, because it was just so fascinating.  Like a terrifying novel, only it's completely real.  All the people harmed in this story really got harmed.

It amazes me how interesting drama is.  I purposefully go out of my way to avoid drama in my personal life, and yet when I run across a story about wrong doings, mysterious happenings, and people getting lied to and hurt, I can't help wanting to stop and read everything I can about it.  I don't even read dramatic books or watch dramatic movies, and yet there I was last night, knee deep in 4-5 year old blogs, trying to read all the drama I could about this case.

For some reason, I think humans evolved to love drama.  You see it everywhere you go.  I dare you to turn on your television and try to find a show that isn't dramatic.  I've even seen shows where they try to make fishing or antiquing as dramatic as possible!  I don't know about you, but the last time I checked, the reason most people go fishing or antiquing is because it relaxes them.

There are people in my life that I know to be truly drama-addicted.  My sister, for instance, seems to be constantly in a bad situation.  She complains bitterly about how hard her life is, but she never stops to think about why she's in the place she's in.  If she did, she'd realize that almost every single bad thing in her life is self-inflicted.  I doubt she knows this is going on, but on some level, she's creating drama in her life because she's addicted to it.

Even though I know it's bad for me, I can't always stop myself from following certain real-life novels.  I find myself  attracted the whole Carbsane drama lately.  In certain ways, it reminds me a lot of Kimkins.  The situations are totally different (Kimkins was advocating extremely low calorie/low carb/low fat diets, where as Carbsane is going around bashing just about every LC/Paleo/Primal person on the internet), but the personalities of Heidi (Kimkins) and Evelyn (Carbsane) ....  they seem eerily similar.  Manipulative, secretive, uncaring about damage they're doing to the people who trust them, narcissistic, and very hateful to anyone who doesn't agree with them.

It's really sad to me that there's drama like this out in the world.  That hateful, dramatic people like Heidi and Evelyn can gather a following of trusting people who just don't question their tactics.  And even more sad is the fact that I can't peel my eyes away from the ensuing train wreck.  I find myself rooting for the "bad guys" to get caught and all the juicy details of their lies to be uncovered.  The world needs justice!

Maybe it does, but I don't think I want to be a part of that side of it.  I'm going to try letting go of the drama-filled blogs and focus more on being positive and uplifting in my own.  As it turns out, Gandhi didn't say this next quote despite the fact that everyone attributes it to him, but it's still a beautiful belief to live by:

Be the change you wish to see in the world.

And I plan to.


  1. I think just mentioning Carbsane obliges her to write a post bashing you! :)

    1. Yeah, I'm a little afraid now actually, lol. But I guess I'll just have to ignore it if it happens!

  2. Yeah, I can't get into the carbsane blogs; for or against. I don't need the drama.

    But drama is what now fuels ALL reality TV shows. I used to love them. But I've always lamented the 'keep them on for the sake of the juicy drama-drama' stuff, and it's only gotten worse. I'm about to stop watching my favorite reality TV shows because they keep unworthy people on (in contestant style reality shows) ONLY because of the drama when they are jack asses.

    Too many tv shows, too little time to put up with that. And when you stop to think of it, it's really demeaning to the viewers. I'd rather see chefs fight it out via the quality of their product, rather than have them 'kept alive' because of the drama they cause. Most of these shows are about to 'jump the shark' in my eyes. And it's a lot of them; Project Runway, Master Chef...the list goes on and on. Life is just too short.

    But yeah, it's hard to turn away from train wrecks. My husband gets so irked when freeway back ups are caused to 'looky lou's'...people slowing down to see why a car is pulled over or someone getting a ticket.

    Yeah, mini rant there myself. LOL

    Good that you are going to try and pull away. It's such a time killer! I could read a whole lot more books, improve myself a whole lot more, if I gave up TV reality drama! :)

    Great post!

    1. I know exactly what you mean about reality tv shows, Gwen. Chad and I don't even have cable anymore because it's such a time-suck, and it seems like tv producers aren't putting any real effort into making shows. They're just throwing together a bunch of temperamental people and waiting to see what happens.

      You're right that there's so much more that we could be doing! I have to smile sometimes when I hear people complain that they just don't have any time for a hobby or for exercising, and then they go on to tell you about the tv shows they watched last night.

  3. I hate to admit it, but internet drama can be addictive. It's funny because I go out of my way to avoid being part of it, but I do get kind of a sick pleasure out of following it. Hell, sometimes when an article on a controversial subject is posted, I'll scroll past the article to the comments section to see if any flame wars erupted.

    Fortunately, the places I frequent don't really attract a lot of drama, but when it's there, I totally have to read it =P